Ministering to persons who face death. Practical guidance for care givers of persons making end-of-life treatment decisions

It is time care givers learn how to minister effectively and sensitively to those making end-of-life treatment decisions. To do so, care givers need to be aware of the various meanings death and dying hold. Culture, religion, past experiences with death and dying, and current situations can all influence the way persons perceive death and dying. Sensitivity to who the patient and family are, to how they perceive the disease or illness, and to how this perception influences their ability to achieve their life goals is a critical care-giving skill. Sensitivity, however, need not result in value neutrality or tolerance. Care givers should not be mindless executors of patient or family demands. Care givers must learn to talk honestly with patients and families about how a particular disease is most likely to progress and about the types of decisions they are likely to need to make. And then care givers need to present options, remaining sensitive to the patients' beliefs, values, and interests. Persons who care for the dying will face three types of patients, who will require different types of responses. The three types are patients who welcome death, patients who accept death, and patients who fight death. For all types of patients, care givers must keep the care patient centered and responsive to patients' priorities; facilitate informed decision making; promote communication among the patient, family, and healthcare team; support autonomous decision making; mediate conflicts; and offer spiritual counseling.